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Poster: darkeyes Date: Jan 19, 2007 8:32pm
Forum: GratefulDead Subject: Spouse

When it comes to Grateful Dead music, is your spouse a fan of the music or did he/she marry into it, so to speak. For me, my wife married into it and is not found of the idea that I listen to it. It's my vice per se. Do any of you have any interesting stories to tell reguarding ur spouse and the good ole Grateful Dead. By the way, listening to a very groovy H>S>F from Hampton '83. This is not a wife bashing post by the way.

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Poster: Yankee9 Date: Jan 19, 2007 9:29pm
Forum: GratefulDead Subject: Re: Spouse

good topic......my wife definitely married into it; however, for the most part she puts up with it. According to her, she thinks they are okay until they start singing. In particular she has made me turn off the stereo on a couple of occasions when Donna has emitted one of her primal Playin' wails, or when Donna is completely out of tune on a tune such as Sunshine Daydream or GDTRFB

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Poster: not_a_typical_daydream Date: Jan 19, 2007 9:37pm
Forum: GratefulDead Subject: Re: Spouse

I've tried to explain the Donna thing to my wife, but I realized I didn't understand the Donna thing myself. She thinks she sounds like a jacked up Janis Joplin.

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Poster: DEADBUCK Date: Jan 20, 2007 9:33am
Forum: GratefulDead Subject: Re: Spouse

I took my ex...(wish it was a bash session...oh well!) to see them at high gate in 95...the best part was her taken a dirt nap off the sidewalk after a baloon..we dragged her over behind a car to get some privacy and to wake her..then a cop gets in our face ..."is she on drugs?" was the question...uh uh no sir she is just wiped out from the heat.....I should have said yes and let em take her....damn Im dumb! Where is Doc Emmet Brown now when I need him?

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Poster: stratocaster Date: Jan 19, 2007 8:58pm
Forum: GratefulDead Subject: Re: Spouse

my wife likes about 2-3 tunes, she does not like the jamming and thinks it all sounds the same anyway...I think I'll have to punish her with a 12-02-1973 Playin' In the Band tomorrow morning...

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Poster: direwolf0701 Date: Jan 19, 2007 9:13pm
Forum: GratefulDead Subject: Re: Spouse

maybe it really DOES all the sound the same.... i keep hearing those words too ;)


naahhhhhhhh

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Poster: cush11 Date: Jan 19, 2007 9:20pm
Forum: GratefulDead Subject: Re: Spouse

At least she doesn't trow pots and pans! ;)

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Poster: cush11 Date: Jan 19, 2007 9:23pm
Forum: GratefulDead Subject: Re: Spouse

..."The stupid gay Grateful Dead and your stupid gay internet friends"...

:)

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Poster: direwolf0701 Date: Jan 19, 2007 9:20pm
Forum: GratefulDead Subject: Re: Spouse

lmao!!!! would that be a direct quote???? too funny dude

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Poster: cush11 Date: Jan 19, 2007 9:22pm
Forum: GratefulDead Subject: Re: Spouse

Absolutely, You know how Diane's are... There when it counts, the rest of the time??????

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Poster: direwolf0701 Date: Jan 19, 2007 9:28pm
Forum: GratefulDead Subject: Re: Spouse

i will have to regale mine with that quote - she will get a kick out of that and most assuredly reply with... "good for her"

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Poster: cush11 Date: Jan 19, 2007 9:35pm
Forum: GratefulDead Subject: Re: Spouse

Good thing in the long run maybe that we have a couple thousand miles in between them... Could make our lives miserable!

LMAO!!!

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Poster: direwolf0701 Date: Jan 19, 2007 9:37pm
Forum: GratefulDead Subject: Re: Spouse

Mine has actually brought that up before - lol.

She can be sinister at times (god, i love that woman).


Time for me to get some sleep - have a Grate rest of the evening big bro - talk to you tomorrow! glad things are a bit better today - sleep well!!

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Poster: cush11 Date: Jan 19, 2007 9:47pm
Forum: GratefulDead Subject: Re: Spouse

Thanks little Bro, Rest well. Catch you tomorrow...

I'm going to check out for a bit and watch a movie with the girls...

;)

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Poster: JodyC Date: Jan 20, 2007 10:21am
Forum: GratefulDead Subject: Re: Spouse

Gay as in festive and happy right.Could be taken as a compliment. Has she not grokked? Yeah, right.As long as she returns home every night can we really complain?

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Poster: cush11 Date: Jan 20, 2007 10:25am
Forum: GratefulDead Subject: Re: Spouse

;)

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Poster: direwolf0701 Date: Jan 20, 2007 10:39am
Forum: GratefulDead Subject: Re: Spouse

i think mine is glad she can return to her own house sometimes

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Poster: JodyC Date: Jan 19, 2007 9:19pm
Forum: GratefulDead Subject: Re: Spouse

Dancin...

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Poster: dogsinapile! Date: Jan 21, 2007 5:10am
Forum: GratefulDead Subject: Re: Spouse

My Jennifer maried into it. After seven years she is coming around though.

True stories...

One night when we had been dating about a month, I picked her up and of course there was a bootleg playing in the car - a 1970 show I think. Anyway, when they started into "It's A Man's World" her comment was (and I quote) "Oh no, don't tell me they're going to ruin another song."

Last year her cat of 13 years passed away one Sunday morning. I buried her out back in the garden during a light rain. It tore me up and I did what I usually do to morn a passing - came in the house and played "Box Of Rain" from American Beauty. Really loud. A few days later we were talking about her cat and she thanked me. She said that song put into words how she felt at that moment. She said "I think I am beginning to understand."

Like I said before she is coming around.

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Poster: skuzzlebutt Date: Jan 20, 2007 6:35am
Forum: GratefulDead Subject: Re: Spouse

I have to laugh while echoing the sentiments above. "The Dead suck ass" and "It all sounds the same" are but two of the frequent derogatory comments I get from Mrs. Skuzzlebutt. She'll tolerate them in the interest of household harmony, but she really can't find enough bad things to say about them.

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Poster: SDH2O Date: Jan 20, 2007 8:23am
Forum: GratefulDead Subject: Re: Spouse

Similar to Mr. Wolf, my wife tolerates but by no means loves the Dead. In fact, she often questions why in Hell I spend so much time collecting/listening to/talking about the Dead. I really can't answer her other than to rebut "Well, how can you spend 3 hours shopping for a pair of socks?" At this point she will typically give me a look that would knock a buzzard off a shit-wagon at 50 paces, but say nothing and leave it alone. It's all about give and take in any succesful relationship I suppose. Do I wish my wife shared my affinity for this music? Guess so, but I often think that could make things TOO much the same; I feel it is our differences and the constant learning about how to accept them that makes ours a succesful relationship (15 years this March).

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Poster: mudcatbluez Date: Jan 20, 2007 10:17am
Forum: GratefulDead Subject: Re: Spouse

My wife tells me her last boyfriend was into the Dead, though so much of how she describes him/it has me believing he liked the Dead enough to have 3-4 CD's & to have been to a couple shows--as much or more for the drugs & party as for the music. BUT he turned her on to the boys & Neil Young(I thought that since she even had copies of Workingman's & Harvest it was a good sign...) Mostly she tolerates the Dead & me when it comes to them. I read her some of the above posts aloud a few minutes back and she got a good chuckle over the "at least I'm not into internet porn (thanx for that one, Not...Daydream! :))

Most of my wife's musical tastes have me believing that God has a sense of humor. I married a woman who still loves & plays disco (no shit--BeeGees, Abba, etc..) ...when she's not listening to Pop Country. Me? I think I once used a copy of the Saturday Night Fever LP to sight in a deer rifle. (no b.s.) Bottom line, I make more rude comments about her music than she makes about mine.

We've got some common ground. She still claims to "like the Dead," though she'll stick to mostly 1st set fare (don't want to scare her too badly...:)) She's getting more & more into my blues collection, which does wonders for my heart. Musical tastes & peculiarities aside, she remains the best thing to ever happen to me. Her being a disco lover must be God's punishment for the delicious depravity of my misspent youth...

Peace.

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Poster: johnnyonthespot Date: Jan 19, 2007 10:21pm
Forum: GratefulDead Subject: Re: Spouse

My woman was indifferent to the Dead but she's getting used to it in a big way and the most important thing is she understands! She understands the lyrics in a big way and has tremendous respect for how " deep" they are ( HER words ). She's constantly defending them to others. And while she too ( likie mentioned )thinks the jams all sound the same or are too much for her to take, she really understands why I dig it. As much as anyone can who never saw them. She ( unlike me ) is Christian and fully respects WHY they are my church. And I must say has incredible insight to the meaning behing their songs as well as other things.

I guess all I can say is she likes some songs ( mostly the Jerry tunes ) but most importantly respects the band and why I have the passion that I do. She brings more to it than girlfriends I have that went to shows and claimed they were into the band.

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Poster: cush11 Date: Jan 19, 2007 11:16pm
Forum: GratefulDead Subject: Re: Spouse

You are another lucky man JOTS! It appears to me that she does indeed get and is on the bus, if she knows it or not!

I also respect and pretty much agree with what you said on that political thread too...

Welcome back, seems like you haven't been around much lately...

;)

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Poster: high flow Date: Jan 19, 2007 11:47pm
Forum: GratefulDead Subject: Re: Spouse

I started dating Maragret when I was 19. Our 1st 2 dates were JGB at the Warfield. Getting baked, smoochin' and dancin' on that steamy balcony.

See how smart I am? I eased her in w/ a little motown-Jerry, a 30-minute Lay Down Sally and all the music that moves your soul. She boogied her ass off and we spent the next 4 years going to ALL kinds of shows.

And Still do to this day. 16 years now all told, almost 9 years married.

Needless to say, she digs the fatman and Jerry too!

Oh, and did I mention...she's hot!!;)

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Poster: cush11 Date: Jan 19, 2007 11:56pm
Forum: GratefulDead Subject: Re: Spouse

Good 1st dates! No wonder you couldn't get rid of her...

lol, ;)

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Poster: johnnyonthespot Date: Jan 20, 2007 9:50am
Forum: GratefulDead Subject: Re: Spouse

Thanks Cush! : )

and you are right, I am a lucky man indeed. She even upped our internet connection because I didn't realize I had a limit and went over : o ( when I got the bill ) then : ( I was going to cancel it then she upped the package. She understands its my most harmless hobby or vice.

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Poster: cush11 Date: Jan 20, 2007 9:59am
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"She understands its my most harmless hobby or vice"

Just last night mine was saying, don't you have any hobbies?

Um. uh, well yeah, that's what you're complaining about right now! ;)

She does have a heart of gold though, and literally picks me up when I fall down! Or did when I was having those blackouts 2 years ago... Was right there with us last wednesday too!!!

She'll come around eventually, I've worn a lot tougher than her down!!! ;)

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Poster: johnnyonthespot Date: Jan 20, 2007 10:46am
Forum: GratefulDead Subject: Re: Spouse

Right on Cush! You can do it : )

What kind of music does she like? Mine is more into Jack Johnson and John Mayer, both a little too clean for me but respectable. Then she likes Blue October and some of the more current stuff.


I was going to post this before - here are the Dead tunes I know she digs the most because these are the tunes that without fail I either catch her singing along or she has expressed that she likes them:

Casey Jones
Playin in the Band
Row Jimmy
Loser
Truckin
Althea
Eyes
Good Lovin
Damn I drew a blank on the rest but theres more. If only I could get her to appreciate Dark Star!

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Poster: high flow Date: Jan 20, 2007 10:54am
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Hey Johnny - There is some pretty good Jack Johnson here on LMA for DL. Go get here the Dodge Theater show.

John Mayer is an artist I just can't stomach. I KNOW he's talented, but he and Dave Matthews just don't do it for me...too whiny.

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Poster: johnnyonthespot Date: Jan 20, 2007 10:58am
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Yeah I've downloaded some for her from here as well as some torrents. RIGHT ON about Mayer and Dave Matthews. I can handle some of Mayers guitar playing because it's real but not because I find it real good you know? And Matthews? I NEVER have gotten why people think he's so great. He's got such a fake whiny voice and then I just dont dig on the dynamics of trios unless it's Piano Jazz. I don't dig on Cream, Doors, Mule, I just dont dig trios, seems they're all missing something. One ONLY exception is Big Head Todd, now there is a trio that sounds full and rich.

Hey, I'm getting your stuff FINALLY finished this weekend. Sorry for being so lame. Do you have that 10/27/91 show? Do you want it? Or how about 12-31-89? Couple of recent colliseum shows I just picked up.

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Poster: high flow Date: Jan 20, 2007 11:04am
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Dude, we have matching DNA. I have almost all Big Head Todd albums. Saw him a bunch in the 90's. Do you have the Midnight Radio CD? It's really good.

Saw Dave Matthews several times in the mid-90's, thought he was pretty good. BUT, that was in samller venues like San Jose State Events Center. Dave opened for Phish.

Saw DMB a few more times, but lost ALL interest after hearing Watchtower at every show and the sudden unflux of teenie-boppers screaming "DDDDDAAAAAAAAVVVVEEEEEE, he's so fine!" Then time passed and I just started to really be annoyed by DMB.

Believe it or not, one of the best shows from that year was Hootie and the Blowfish opening for Toad the Wet Sprocket. That was a very kind show. Even though, soon after, Hootie became a "Smashmouth-esque" corporate band. I just remeber Darius Rucker singing the Toad song Crowing. It was beautiful...

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Poster: johnnyonthespot Date: Jan 20, 2007 2:33pm
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Absolutely on Midnight Radio. By FAR my favorite album from them. The thing that's so amazing it's that tight and rich sounding and is 100% live, not in front of an audience but them playing in real time together with no overdubs. The first I ever heard of them was when I was working at Tower in 89 or so they sent in their first CD ( welcome to Mayberry ) to put on consignment. Couple of years later I moved back to Colorado where they were THE local band but still playing relatively small venues then Sister Sweetly came out and they got big. Then Todd got his songs stolen out of that Teepee he was living in then they just sort of went nowhere ever since. When I saw them at Red Rocks as part of the Horde tour they were so impressive I thought for sure they would be huge but for whatever reason they just didn't make that next leap. I still don't get why.

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Poster: not_a_typical_daydream Date: Jan 19, 2007 9:21pm
Forum: GratefulDead Subject: Re: Spouse

She's not really a Dead fan at all. She is getting used to more of the first set type songs, as long as it's short and they're singing. When they start jamming she says it all sounds the same.

I'm noticing a pattern emerging here.

Whenever she says anything about my love for the Grateful Dead, I just tell her, "at least I'm not into internet porn."

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Poster: daliguana Date: Jan 19, 2007 9:26pm
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I have to say that my girl is very cool when it comes to the Dead. She toured at the same time I did before we met. She has never harshed on me for playing the Dead - never. Daughter is the same way - she wants to listen to the Dead All The Time. To clarify, she wants to listen to Jerry A T T. Am I lucky or what?

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Poster: cush11 Date: Jan 19, 2007 9:34pm
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Way lucky and what!!! Mt ex was a Head, but she's also my ex... Go figger?!

How are you Dali? And how is, pardon my memory as to name, your dog doing?

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Poster: daliguana Date: Jan 20, 2007 5:58am
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Shunka is doing great. Antibiotics are doing there job. I just need to keep a look out for whatever it was that caused the swelling in the first place. Didn't have enought $ for the vet to numb it and explore and it was too painful to do it without.

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Poster: lobster12 Date: Jan 20, 2007 4:08pm
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NOT IN THE LEAST

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Poster: direwolf0701 Date: Jan 19, 2007 8:48pm
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the ex-spouse was not a fan by any means.

Nor is the current girlfriend - though she can handle 76-77 GD pretty well.

What am I doing wrong????

However, the girlfriend likes Kimock!!! So i suppose I can't complain too much :)

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Poster: ghostofpig Date: Jan 20, 2007 6:09am
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Well I married me a wife, she's been trouble all my life
Run me out in the cold rain and snow
Rain and snow
Run me out in the cold rain and snow

Well she's coming down the stairs, combing back her
yellow
And I ain't gonna be treated this-a-way
This-a-way
And I ain't gonna be treated this-a-way

Well she went up to her room and she sang a fateful tune
And I'm going where those chilly winds don't blow
Winds don't blow
And I'm going where those chilly winds don't blow

Well I married me a wife, she's been trouble all my life
Run me out in the cold rain and snow
Rain and snow
Run me out in the cold rain and snow



Isn't that the truth?

But not my old lady


'Cause she's got box-back nitties
And great big noble thighs
Working undercover with a boar hog's eye